Job hunting and dating have a lot in common especially if you are a millennial.
In the U.S. there is a 7.7% unemployment rate for young adults (18-34) and 68% of those young adults are single. Finding a job and a partner have become very similar journeys through hell. The struggle is real.
Five ways dating and job hunting are two in the same.
Dating: The guy or girl you were messaging with just disappears off the face of the earth like a ghost. You then know they are not interested.
Job Hunting: The HR recruiter who you have had polite intercourse with over the past few weeks whether through email or phone, never responds to your last follow-up.
- Only want one thing and one thing only
Dating: Simple word here, sex or free pizza if up on the Tinder trends. Once they find out you are not game for these options they Ghost as stated above.
Job Hunting: A cheap body. They want someone who can get the job done for the lowest salary.
- The one night stand, similar to ghosting but oh so much worse
Dating: You have a really great date, I mean you saw fireworks and then next few days you hear nothing. Desperate of course to follow-up, you text and call. Occasionally you will receive the “oh, I have been busy.”
Job Hunting: You have a stellar interview, just wow. You patted yourself on the back like a rock star after. You follow-up with the recruiter and the interviewer and for weeks hear nothing. Then you receive a response from the recruiter stating they are still interviewing or that they have decided to go in another direction.
- Too career oriented
Dating: (Men this can also apply to you!)You are an independent woman, great job and want to move and grow with your career. Guy you have been dating expresses that woman should be at home to take care of the children and as a family we should focus on HIS career. When you disagree he responds with you are too Alpha for me.
Job hunting: Especially and unfortunately when interviewing with a female, the company sees you as a threat instead of value. They want someone who will be satisfied working beneath them as long as possible. They also do not want to be a stepping stone, they want commitment to THEM.
- Word vomit
Dating: Yes, my ex-boyfriend he was a nut job, I threw all his shit out my apartment window. Oh, that was way too much information that must be the wine talking.
Job hunting: I left my current employer due to the toxic working environment. My manager slept with my best friend in another department…..
Enough said. At least we know we are not alone in the struggle with most of us unemployed and searching for love and work.